Set Yourself up for Success

Set Yourself up for Success

In today’s video I talk about how to set yourself up for success as a leader.

Expectations or Assumptions?

The first advice I want to give you is to move from expectations to assumptions. Success is when we meet expectations, failure is when we fail expectations, that’s fairly straightforward and I’m assuming you know that. One thing that many people don’t realize is how much of a difference it makes, whether you hold an expectation, or whether you hold an assumption. If I am meeting you and I’m expecting you to be on time and you are not, you are wrong. If I assume you to be on time and you’re not, I am wrong. Dealing with me being wrong is something that is my responsibility, it’s something that I can deal with. You being wrong is a much bigger problem and it’s a problem I don’t want to have. I don’t want to take responsibility for dealing with that, especially if the simple difference between you being wrong and me being wrong is just me making an assumption versus me making an expectation.

Assumptions and Agreements

The bad thing about assumptions is they’re barely known to ourselves and they’re usually not known to the other. To be successful with your assumptions, you need to share them. This is one of the first leadership principles that I teach in my classes, it’s that we need to move from assumptions to agreements. We need to have conversations about how we assume the future to be, how we assume our collaboration to be, how we assume our relationships to be and we need to move towards agreements. Leadership agreements are one of the most fundamental tools that you will need to employ to set yourself up for success.

Leadership Agreement

But what does a leadership agreement look like? Well, there are lots of answers to the simple question “How can we make each other look good?”. That’s a phrase from improv theatre, where things fail, things happen, surprises come along all the time. It’s just like real life and day-to-day leadership, right? The first and foremost agreement that we need to make is to set ourselves up to look good, set ourselves up to be successful and to help each other become successful. As leaders, we get paid to make people more successful than they would be without our leadership. That’s a simple truth about why leaders exist. I am successful if my people are successful. I am successful when my boss is successful.

Leadership Agreement
Leadership Agreement

Therefore go around and talk to the people who report to you, the people you’re leading with, your peers, people you’re delivering to, who deliver stuff to you, upstream and downstream in terms of workflow, go to your boss… You may start with any of these relationships today. Just have a conversation about how can we make each other look good? How can we support each other? How can I contribute to your success?

What kind of leader do you need me to be tomorrow? 

Especially when we talk about agile organizations, where we’re working with teams who are supposed to improve and change the way they work and collaborate, increase the way in which they are autonomous, increase the ways in which they take responsibility instead of just doing what they’re told. I need to change my leadership. I want to be proactive about it. I don’t want them to run into a glass ceiling and then complain about, “Yeah, Olaf. Sorry, but we couldn’t do that, because…” I want to go to them and say “Okay, with your regular cadence of improvement, with the things you have decided in your last retrospective, what kind of leader do you need me to be in the next month, in the next week? What kind of leader do you need me to be tomorrow?”

If you’re daring, you can take things a step further and ask for feedback with the question: ”What’s the hardest thing about working with me? What’s making working with me the hardest? That’s the thing I’m committing to changing as best as I can and as soon as I can.“ Make regular improvement part of your work.

Dee Hock, Birth of the Chaordic Age (Amazon)

Dee Hock, the founder of Visa, wrote a book about the founding of Visa and the birth of that organisation. The book is called “Birth of the Chaordic Age”. He muses about how managers should spend and invest their time and capacity. His advice is very simple and very straightforward. There’s lots of wisdom like that in the book. He says, “Spend half of your time on managing yourself.” Half of your time. Seriously. I think that’s really, really good advice and it’s a really hard stretch for most of us who are already 100% busy with managing whatever needs managing, right?

Spend half of your time on yourself, one-third of your time managing your boss, one-quarter of your time for the people on your level, your peers, suppliers, customers, people who deliver things to you, people you deliver things to, people you have commitments with and also any influencers like regulators, legislation, any peer who influences the system you are working for and you are managing in. Some of you might wonder “What about the people below you? What about the people who report to you? Don’t they need management? Isn’t that why you are their manager?”

He says, very simply, “You hire smart people and tell them to do the very same.” You let your people manage you. 

My application of that advice is having these leadership conversations, having conversations with your directs on what kind of leadership they need, what kind of support they need, where you can step out of the way and where you need to support them.

The Rescuer Trap

In later videos continuing this, we will talk about one specific trap. That’s the “rescuer trap”. Those of you who are familiar with Steven Karpman’s Drama Triangle might know the rescuer role. The rescuer trap is particularly luring for leaders and that’s deserving its own video. 

Write a Leadership Journal

We’ll be talking about writing a leadership diary or a leadership journal. You’ll be keeping a journal of what you’re doing day to day, so you have something to reflect on. Reflecting on and improving one‘s leadership is really hard because leadership is ephemeral. It goes away as soon as we’ve done it and then there’s the next thing to do. So paying attention over time to what I’ve done, what happened and how I can use that information to actually improve in the long term, that needs conscious practice and we will cover that in one of the next videos.

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Christopher Avery Responsibility

Christopher Avery Responsibility

Olaf Lewitz:

Welcome, it’s an amazing morning in Austin, Texas and afternoon in Berlin, Germany. And I’m here with my friend, Christopher Avery. A friend and mentor and a guide into leadership and responsibility. I want to continue the thing that I’ve started a while ago, a series of video conversations, which I call Leadership Nuggets. Since so much of my work and so much of my inspiration about leadership has come from you, it’s a great chance to start these conversations with you. And I look forward to having even more conversations with you because I know that it’s not going to be done in one.

So how did this whole responsibility and leadership thing start for you? I do not actually know if your focus on responsibility and your curiosity and discovery of the responsibility process started from a leadership perspective or if you started with responsibility and then discovered that it was a “great leadership gift” as your big leadership program is called.

Christopher Avery:

Yeah.

Olaf Lewitz:

So how did that come about?

Christopher Avery:

Yeah, thank you, Olaf. Here we are in our kitchens doing Leadership Nuggets, which makes me want to go over there and get something that I can pop in my mouth. So let’s see if we can deliver some tasty treats here.

Olaf Lewitz:

Absolutely.

Christopher Avery:

All right, so how did it all start? I mean, one of my signature stories and the reason I know so much about responsibility is that I spent so much of my life avoiding it. I’m one of those Americans that spent eight years getting a bachelor’s degree in speech, went to three different colleges, flunked out of my first one. So I was serious about taking life easy.

So what happened was that I finally woke up in my PhD program and became a serious scholar. So I looked at the career opportunities and for some reason, I did not want to be a tenure track professor, I thought that universities were probably the most politicized environments on the planet, so I’d rather work in corporate America. I was working in a little consulting firm, which is where I learned my consulting and training chops and I created a training for IBM. I had befriended a software manager who transitioned into being an education director after working for many years as a manager in software. I asked her, “What gives you knots in the stomach?” and she said, “I wish there was a way to teach software project leaders how to build teams.”

Now, Olaf, this is pre-PMI.

Olaf Lewitz:

Yep.

Christopher Avery:

We’re talking 1990, this is when I had this conversation. So I went off and recruited a couple of my friends in adult learning and my brilliant professor friend who knew the sociology and psychology in group research like this. We started putting together just a simple three-day project team leadership workshop for project software leaders. And first of all, we knocked it out of the park and had a huge business. So that was the beginning of me being in business.  I spun out of the consulting firm and started Partner Works, which is now The Responsibility Company.

I was looking for the one thing to typify everything about teamwork and collaboration. When you’re an expert in a body of knowledge, you realize that you have to figure out a way to get somebody else to get the essence of it without caring about all of their stuff the way you do. So I was trying to typify this huge body of knowledge down to a three-day training, down to a couple of nuggets.

Olaf Lewitz:

Yes.

Christopher Avery:

The one thing that I noticed that nobody else was paying attention to was shared responsibility. When teams come together, not even when they gel, but when they just even start to come together and when they’re willing to invest in figuring out how they’re going to do this together, then what’s happened is they’ve already started to step up to something that’s bigger than themselves, bigger than their own job, bigger than their own accountability. And I don’t remember exactly when or where I realized this, but I went “Bingo, that’s it. I’m going to hang everything I do on shared responsibility and I’m going to go figure out what this stuff is.” In terms of human dynamics and human psychology, where does it come from? And how does it get there? And if somebody doesn’t have it, can you install it?

Olaf Lewitz:

Can you download it somewhere?

Christopher Avery:

Yeah.

Olaf Lewitz:

Patch the operating system.

Christopher Avery:

Yeah, absolutely. So that’s where my interest in responsibility really started, it started because of my interest in collaboration, teamwork, and partnering. Realizing that for any of that good collaboration, teamwork, partnering stuff to happen in corporations 30 years ago, you had to overcome all of this horrible structure that the corporation puts in place to keep you from teaming and collaborating.

Olaf Lewitz:

Exactly.

Christopher Avery:

All the departmentalization, the specialization, the individual roles and responsibilities and the individual performance and all of that. So that’s where it started. I was a new PhD and so I still had scholarship chops and I was very committed to being a coach consultant trainer. I was just in a search for understanding responsibility and that’s when I ran into the responsibility project that was producing what I now call, the responsibility process. And that was in 1991, I think, that I was introduced to that.

So I went to a seminar called Money and Year and it was all taught with flip charts using what today you would call … what’s it called? Training from the back of the room?

Olaf Lewitz:

Yep.

Responsibility Process
The Responsibility Process

Christopher Avery:

Is that it? Well, so back then it was called super-learning or accelerated learning, which is the version I learned. It was all taught with flip charts and the flip charts were hung up so you could refer to all the models. On one of the early flip charts, he wrote the word “lay blame”, then the word “justify”, then a middle line, and then the word “responsibility”. He just briefly explained that when things go wrong, humans naturally blame and tell stories and make excuses and justify. But all of that is below the line in terms of being ineffective and not owning your role in the world.

Olaf Lewitz:

Yes.

Christopher Avery:

That’s being a victim. But above the line is the ability to respond. We all have a place in our mind where we can be creative and generative and we can overcome any problem.

Then they proceeded to throw us into a game and in the debrief of the game, I and everybody else were blaming the instructor and justifying the rules. And the instructor, he just went over and stood next to the flip chart.

That got inside of me in a big way and I said to myself, “I want that. I want to understand that. I want to integrate that into my being – big time.”

Olaf Lewitz:

Yes.

Christopher Avery:

So I said to myself, “I am a big freaking crybaby. I’m smart, I’m ambitious, I’m intelligent and I spend all of this time blaming and justifying why I don’t have whatever I want.” And what if I could just spend a little less time in blame and justify and maybe I’d spend a little more time in that creative part of my mind, that part that’s connected and plugged in and tapping into my genius and my inspiration. What if I could transfer 1% from below the line to above the line every month, every three months? Grow it 4% utilization a year. Wow, that’d be pretty cool. So that was it, I was sold.

Olaf Lewitz:

Awesome.

Christopher Avery:

I already had my doctorate, I’d already seen tons of models of psychology, and this is the most brilliant model of normal psychology I’ve ever seen. So I bought it, hook, line and sinker, Olaf.

Olaf Lewitz:

Yep.

Christopher Avery:

So that’s the origin story.

Olaf Lewitz:

Beautiful. I have one follow up question and this might be a question for a second conversation. But it came to my mind when you started with team building and shared responsibility and one of the questions I get asked most by leaders is, or rather the hesitations that they utter, it’s not actually a question, it’s that it doesn’t work. It doesn’t work when multiple people take responsibility for something. Responsibility needs to be assigned to one person and then that person needs to be held accountable. You all know the metaphor of the single ring-able neck, which is so ingrained in the way that corporations are built, you mentioned that. It was definitely worse in the nineties, but I see a lot of that in organizations today.

A big part of my work is keeping startups from building all of these functions like they have 20 people and already 50 different job titles with vice presidents and whatnot. Where I go like “Why don’t you focus on building products and making and growing your organization? Instead of growing your job titles and growing your egos and growing the different ways in which you cut responsibility into pieces.” Is there a key gift that you could give to those leaders who believe that responsibility needs to be assigned to a single neck or nose or pair of eyes or heart, whatever it is. So that they can start believing that teams owning something are actually so much more effective and greater and much more fun.

Christopher Avery:

Sure. For me, helping a manager understand that teams can be more effective and more fun is maybe a little bit different than the difference between responsibility and delegation or accountability. If I’m trying to help an executive or a manager move into more effectiveness, I think I would help them differentiate responsibility as an internal dynamic of ownership or lack of ownership. From accountability or delegation or performance measurement as an external.

Olaf Lewitz:

Yep.

Christopher Avery:

In my case, I work in a self-organized team, seven teammates, and the discipline that we have, and you know this from Scrum teams that you’ve worked with, is, we start with what we’re trying to get done and then move that down to prioritized goals and then we task it out. And the last thing we do is say, “Okay, now who is going to take what part?” We know who is doing what.

So the only thing that’s different there is instead of a manager assigning who’s doing what, we assign it for ourselves. So for me more gets done faster when a team takes ownership and has the execution conversation among themselves, rather than having some boss think that they know who should do what and assigning it.

Olaf Lewitz:

Yep, absolutely.

Christopher Avery:

You get more of what you’re an expert in, which is what I’m going to have a conversation about some time. So you get more of the invitation.

Olaf Lewitz:

Oh, yes.

Christopher Avery:

You get more of the person showing up because of the invitation rather than the assignment.

Olaf Lewitz:

Yeah, that’s a beautiful idea for our next conversation, talking about the relationship between invitation and responsibility.

Christopher Avery:

Yeah, absolutely.

Olaf Lewitz:

That’s a strong one. Thank you so much, this was interesting and new.

Christopher Avery:

Your welcome.

Olaf Lewitz:

I’m really looking forward to the next conversation.

Christopher Avery:

Me too. Thank you.

Olaf Lewitz:

Thank you.

2020 – what a Year!

2020 is a year about change. So many amazing things are happening and many things that are not at all amazing. I want to talk about what’s going on and what I think about it.

2020 – what a Year! New video log starting…

I want to invite conversations. If you’re interested in talking to me, if you have a challenge, if you have a problem, if you have an interesting topic you want to dive into and explore, let me know! You might be in for a free consultation 🙂

And I want to use this chance and this channel in the future to also let you know what is happening in Olaf’s life and Olaf’s work. I’ve done about 50 Certified “Agile Leadership” trainings in the last three and a half years. It’s been a journey of learning and discovery, and there are lots of content to share.

I’m writing a book, If Agile Is The Solution, I Want My Problem Back. How does that fit? Agile is not the solution, yet I’m certifying people in agile leadership? That’s one area I’m going to talk about, how the apparent dichotomy of certification, agile, solution, and other things, how that is a lot of fun. Leadership is really important to me. Making a difference with intention, that’s something that I help people to do. And responsibility is what emerges when you do that.

I’ve had an interview recently with Christopher Avery. It’s going to be one of the next videos I’m going to publish. I lead conversations about relationships since corona started. Every day at 4:00 p.m., we’re talking about leading relationships in these interesting times. Join us: it’s an amazing group that has emerged and I want to open that up to more people.

Next week, we’re running a course called Mastering Relationships, a really interesting advanced leadership experience that emerged from my collaboration with a therapist that I started last year when I brought P3 to Berlin, a course in emotional literacy and agility. We do that again and they will do it again in Orlando, Florida. So if you’re based in the U.S., as soon as the lockdown is released and we can start travelling again, that’s definitely an interesting option I highly recommend to you.

In Autumn, two courses that I’ve run multiple times will restart. Our TrustTemenos Leadership Academy will open again in September – if you want to be part of a group exploring their identity and intention and leaders over several months, discovering the leader you want to be, join us!

Business Development for Coaches: our School of Coaching Witchcraft and Wizardry will open up again in autumn. Like the previous cohort, I’ll co-lead this with Ken Power. If you want to grow your confidence, courage and magic, if you want to upgrade your business model and develop your ideal customers, come join that course!

I have a mentoring circle for agile coaches, who want to accelerate their growth and learning. Maybe you’re interested in a certification like CEC or CTC. Maybe you just want supervision. Maybe you need community and confrontation, to learn with other coaches?

I would love to stay in touch with you. I would love to be there for you in ways that I haven’t discovered yet. So much at the moment is about reinventing things and creating something new and I would like to find out what kinds of new things to create with you. So to repeat my invitation from the beginning, I want to invite you to conversations. I will occasionally record and publish videos where I talk about important topics, like if agile is the solution, I want my problem back, about leadership, about relationships, about all of the things close to my heart. And I would really prefer those to be conversations. If you know somebody you want me to talk to, let me know. I’ll try to find them and try to get them into a conversation.

I love the new technology for remote conversation and collaboration. I love the new ways and opportunities for connecting that we have and how connecting remotely has become normal now. Remote work is definitely also a topic I’ll talk about. It’s something I’ve done for years, and I find the possibilities amazing. I hope that many of us don’t go back to flying around the planet all the time and to travelling a lot all the time just to get work done. Instead, we can stay where we are, save the resources of the planet, and have more time. I have not been to an airport since February. If you know me, being to an airport has been usually a more than weekly event in my life for far more than 10 years. And I love it.

So if you would like to know more about what I do, stay in touch, subscribe, stay on this list, and I’m looking forward to what we can co-create, what we can develop. I want to build this relationship and I’m really looking forward to it. Let me know what you want to know and let me know if you like this. Stay in touch. Rock on.

What is special about this work?

It’s been my privilege to be involved in TrustTemenos leadership work for more than two years now. The work has touched me deeply; I am ever more certain that I want to be ever more actively engaged with it and to help share it with ever more people in the world. I have seen it touch many lives already. I am struck with how consistently people seem inspired by the work and pulled powerfully toward greater engagement.

I’ve been asking myself why this is. What is special about this work?

My answer for today is this: the work’s special quality is the weave of these elements

  • We Invite everyone in the system – especially emergent leaders – to truly connect on a deep level with who they are and what they want – and to help others to do the same
  • We invite people to show up – to bring that sense of who we are and what we want to life in the world – with a blend of boldness and humility
  • We create strong, beautiful containers – we call them Temenos – small, intimate groups where the core of that personal work can happen – with a beautiful mix of trust, safety, support and challenge
  • We call forward – and creatively and elegantly design and work within – the broader set of relationships and contexts in which this work can happen
  • We offer but do not impose a wealth of elegant frameworks, tools and stances for nurturing growth
    • Awareness – including an appreciation of different levels of awareness
    • Attention – including deep listening, seeing, hearing, empathy
    • Intention
    • Ways of being – stances, states of mind
    • Self-expression – creative, generous, loving
    • Transformation – roadmaps
  • We truly care about people – welcoming, caring for and nurturing them and inviting them to care for themselves and others as they bring their magic to life in the world.
  • We – I say we – Olaf and Christine are especially good at this one – have the gentle, loving, believable, inspiring, infectious confidence that all this change and growth can happen for each of us – and in exactly the way that’s needed.

This community is growing rapidly – and internationally. Olaf and Christine have in recent months led programs in the UK, France, Germany, Ukraine, Serbia and Egypt. Our partners in Temenos work are very active in the US and in India. Our participants come from all over Europe, North America, the Middle East and Asia.

If this way of bringing leadership to life calls to you, too, we’d love for you to join us.

In particular, please be invited to join us for Certified Agile Leadership 1, January 18-19 2018 in London, a two-day exploration your own leadership journey, with certification from the Scrum Alliance

and/or …

join the TrustTemenos Leadership Academy – Generation 3, our ten-month leadership deep dive, beginning January 25-27 2018 in Germany

and/or …

write to us at info@trusttemenos.com (or me personally, see below) with your own stories, inquiries, celebrations, needs….

Very best energies for your own amazing, special leadership journey!

Scott

scott@trusttemenos.com

 

 

You are Welcome

You are Welcome

“You are Welcome” as an expression of invitation has been part of our deliberate practice for a while, and we’ve been thinking a lot about the difference it makes. What’s special about it?

 

Thank you!” When we hear a passionate expression of gratitude, we reply, “you are welcome!” with a similar amount of passion. We appreciate gratitude with an invitation. We don’t believe that’s wrong 🙂

“I want you to know how important your welcome is to my sense of safety. I know whatever I bring is welcome. I have a high degree of confidence that I will not be attacked, rejected or belittled. That you are likely to see even more of my gold than I see. That you will hold a safe and confidential space for my mistakes, my weakness, my anger, sadness, fear and shame as well my authentic joy. That is an immeasurable gift. That is safety!”

– Scott Downs

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Loving Kindness

Compassion

Joy

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Inclusion

We rarely dare to fully show up in our world. Often, we want to meet expectations, don’t feel worthy to fully disclose ourselves, or we simply do what everybody does and we’ve always done: We fit in. We can shift that with a fully whole-hearted welcome.

You are OK

Our welcome is unconditional. We are all humans and connected. You’re part of the group, no matter what you did or how you feel. This is our invitation. You are welcome. You are welcome to forgive yourself, as we are ready to do it for you and for us as well. 

“Come, come whoever you are, …even if you have broken your vows 10.000 times, …come again”

– Rumi

 

In the course of our lives, we all have felt excluded from a group and suffered in fear of losing connection, relationships and security. These fears prevent us still from connecting to the now and building relationships of trust. If we want to make a change and build spaces of trust in our lives and organisations, it is upon us to start.

Our welcome is an invitation for empathy for us and for others. We can choose whether we want to follow it. We are free to decide, how aware we would like to become about our repressed feelings. If so, they can show up and we can stay with them. Allowing them to be there, allows us to be fully present and authentic. Letting them go frees us, refreshes us and give us back the energy which had been blocked. We can start anew, opening up to the next person to say unconditionally “You are welcome”.

 

 

Love and Magic happens when we meet

This space of compassion invites loving ourselves anew. Children are authentic, emotional and empathetic to all creatures. But already early in our childhood we learned that loves comes with conditions. “If you are brave than your Mummy will love you and read a story for you in the evening”. We got to know a lot of expectations and are still trying to meet them. We learned to survive by being seen, acknowledged by our family and the outer world.  In consequence we were ready to surpress feelings and splinter parts of ourselves to fit in. We do now the same to others by throwing expectations and judgements on them which we think is normal.

Magic comes in, through loving ourselves and others, accepting what is. If we manage, than a big burden is tumbling down, freeing us to feel, to connect and getting back into the flow of life.
We are able to feel love, joy and ease again.

 “God did not ask us to like our neighbours. He just asked us to love them.”

–  Martin Luther King

We don’t need to like how you’re showing up today. We welcome you, again and again. If you don’t feel you’re ok, we will accept it, as a choice. We will hold that possibility of a space of feeling ok, as long as you want it. 

May I be well, may I be happy, may I be free from suffering. May you be well, may you be happy, may you be free from suffering. May we be well, may we be happy, may we be free from suffering.  – Buddha

A good every day practice is the loving kindness meditation practice where we learn to have empathy with ourselves, our loved ones and the ones which we have difficulties with. We will feel more human and connected to others if we practice it regularly. 

Life is encountering humans

“You are welcome!” sings the demi-god as he encounters Moana in the Disney movie of the same name.

 

 

We believe, that encounters are the main thing. The magic of encounter is what is being human. We are curious, open and fully present to what we encounter. We are looking forward to what’s emerging – what happens next? We are not sure what’s going to happen, we aim not to have any plan for the relationship, no goal, there’s room for surprise and magic.

Like everyone we might put people into boxes, but they are creative, loving boxes with interesting colours and patterns, and they are easy to get out of. Even when we have a judgement, we hold that lightly, we set that opinion aside and are curious for the human being that’s showing up.

 

So what makes our welcome special?

we are ready to be surprised. we see humans as they are … we make ourselves vulnerable and are ready for the other to let go of their masks and space suits. We are ready to greet the wonderful being that hides behind the apps and extensions …

we allow connection with yourself to happen..

we are social beings. We want to be in contact. Our space allows empathy, thankfulness, expressing of all emotions to show up and hold a space of trust to invite connection and healing.

Love and Magic will happen if we are ready to take what is offered. If we can give and receive. If we can accept and stay with our resistance. Humans are strong and weak, intellectual and emotional.. it is not about one or the other, it is about one as well as the other.

we are holding diversity, different approaches and perspectives allowing them to co-exist in order to invite creativity and surprisability…

we aim to be aware, to speak up when we notice something. we address it now, so that it doesn’t bother us later on.

we are aware – we are in different worlds, we will never fully understand each other. we can discover similarities, resonance, that ease our communication. We are always ready to start with a beginner’s mind and to forgive..

we are part of a bigger whole
we are all human. We share the same emotions, the same humanity, the basic need to belong. We are one. Feeling welcome no matter what, is a key to be able to connect with yourself and others.

You are Welcome! Let’s meet in life!